Darling Mother - Ruchi Ranjan talks with You & I

She is the supportive yet shy wife of Jayesh Ranjan—Principal Secretary of Industries and Commerce and Information Technology Departments of the Telangana Government. Usually away from the limelight, it was a pleasure to chat with Ruchi Ranjan this week as she let us into her home and gave us a glimpse into her life and what lessons she wishes to pass on to her daughter, Ishika, this Mother’s Day.

Let’s start with understanding what you do.
I was born and brought up in Delhi along with my older sister. Ours is a close-knit family, and even now we continue to derive strength and support from each other. Though a large part of my schooling was done in Delhi, I have studied in Liberia too. My father, who was from the Indian Economic Service, was posted as the Advisor to the President of Liberia. That phase of life was a very interesting and inspiring one for me. There was a ‘Geeta Ashram’ there and I was introduced to the Bhagwad Gita at the tender age of 10.

I am a doctorate in Child Psychology from the University of Delhi and a trained counselor too. I was working as an assistant professor in one of the colleges of Delhi University until I got married. Marriage brought me to the then Andhra Pradesh. My husband is a civil servant. Presently, I work with the underprivileged children.

How would you best describe yourself?
By nature I tend to be a quiet, introspective, and down to earth person. I consider commitment in relationships, having an open channel of communication, integrity, and self-respect as important facets of one’s life.

What is the one motto you highly believe in?
I believe in having a positive attitude towards life. Whatever happens, happens for the good. But we need to put in our best and not let fate/destiny rule our life. I believe in the theory of karma…be good and be humble.

Life takes us all through many phases and seasons. What is that one all-important lesson learnt that has held you in good stead?
It’s true that like nature, life takes us through various seasons…seasons change and so do we. Each season is a learning experience from which we evolve and grow. One important lesson that I have learnt is that we have to maintain a balance in life, between work and home. The life graph needs to be a normal curve and not skewed. As it is said—charity begins at home, a positive home environment is directly proportional to all-round development.

In hindsight, what is the one thing you wish you knew earlier in life?
The one thing I wish I knew earlier is that one needs to plan one’s family at the ‘right’ time after marriage. In our case, our daughter was born after 11 years of marriage.

This Mother’s Day, what are some words of wisdom that you wish to pass on to your daughter Ishika?
Some of the important lessons that I wish to pass on to my daughter on this Mother’s Day is that life is beautiful and you need to live each day as it comes. It is very important for you to imbibe the values of sharing, cooperation, respecting all, developing sensitivity to others, dignity of labour, being empathetic, and leading a disciplined life.

Be happy and live healthy. Nobody is perfect and we learn from our mistakes. Be aware of your surroundings. In this age of computers, technology has advanced a lot and is affecting all aspects of our lives. It can be our friend and can be used in a beneficial way but it can also be ‘misused’ and cause problems. As growing children, you need to understand this difference. So learn to use it with care and caution, and not be swayed away.

Whenever you feel angry, irritated or bogged down, just close your eyes, relax, take a deep breath, and start counting backwards.       – as told to Suneela