Stress and pressure are part and parcel of everyday life.
If your boss isn’t breathing down your neck, there are bills to pay. Another reason for stress could be a professional rivalry, something that’s common in most lines of work these days, given the competition for jobs and promotions. And if it isn’t any of those, it’s no doubt something else. With the sheer number of connections and relationships we handle on a day-to-day basis, we’re bound to come across something or someone that gets us down every now and again.
All this negativity is bound to get to anyone, but there are always ways to change the mindsets that complicate life. Here are some ways to deal with negativity and turn things positive.
• Understand the root of the negativity, and deal with the problem instead of letting it affect your life. Being aware of your negative thoughts is an important part of dealing with them. Observe your mind, and be conscious of what your thoughts are – negative or positive.
“But other people also ‘invite’ us to behave like victims when they complain about the unfairness of life, for example, and ask us to agree, offer advice, and participate. Be careful. When you join in that game, you always end up losing.”
..... Paulo Coelho
• One of the things that instigates negative thoughts is complaining. When you complain about something or discuss it with someone, what tends to happen is that you’re consumed by its negativity. Complaining about an issue more often than not is an effort to justify your feelings, which encourages negative thoughts. When you’re aware of a negative thought, try to push it out of your mind and let it go. Avoid discussing it with anyone.
• “An idle mind is the Devil’s workshop.” This phrase certainly rings true. The best thing to do to avoid negativity bringing you down is to keep busy. When you have nothing to do, you tend to dwell on negative emotions. Make sure you have plenty of things to keep your mind busy. Chances are in no time at all, those pessimistic thoughts will have taken a backseat.
• Another way to banish unwanted thoughts is to write them down. While some can relate to this suggestion, it may sound bizarre to others. Yet there is something cathartic about clearly expressing one’s feelings this way. When you begin to notice a negative train of thought, try writing it down. For some people, doing this helps them transfer their ill feelings. You may also want to destroy that piece of paper, symbolically destroying the thought itself.
“When someone tells me ‘no’, it doesn’t mean I can’t do it. It simply means I can’t do it with them.”
..... Karen E. Quinones Miller
• Criticism is something we all face from time to time, whether at work, at home, or elsewhere; nobody can avoid it. For some, it is easy to shrug off. Others need to cope alternatively. Though it may be difficult to put a positive spin on criticism, there are a few ways to stop it from getting to you. When you face criticism, try to find the truth behind the words so that you can improve. “Forgiveness is the key to happiness” – so goes the saying. In case you think your criticism is misdirected or unwarranted, the best thing to do is to forgive. You will feel better about yourself when you let go of the little things.
• Is the glass half-empty or half-full? Anoter good way to push negative thoughts aside is to increase the positive ones. Make a conscious effort to think positive; it helps you focus on the good and negate the bad. Simply put, count your blessings. You can write down the things you’re thankful for, or just consciously think of what makes you happy. If nature puts a smile on your face, think about the things in the wild that captivate you. Replace those unhappy thoughts with ones that give you hope.