After Amitabh Bachchan wrote a very poignant letter to his granddaughters Navya Naveli and Aaradhya Bachchan, Farhan Akthar has also taken the lead in penning down some really intense and touching words to his two daughters aged 16 and 9, Shakiya and Akira.
In an eight part series called 'Let's Talk Rape,' Farhan began his letter with, "How do I even start writing to you about sexual violence and rape? My instinct, any father's instinct, is to protect and nurture, but it is an issue that we must confront and discuss. Let me start, dear child, by quoting from a poem I wrote after the brutal murder of a sprightly lawyer in my team in 2013. You were too young then, only 12, and all I wanted was to see you smile and feel brave and invincible like you did. The attempted rape and murder was too dark a subject for me to bring up then. Now, you're 16 and I can read the questions in your mind. Yes, the same questions that I find myself asking:
"What is this country that I live in?
That takes away her right to love
Brutalises her with an iron glove
Rapes her without fear
of there being justice for her tear...
...what do I tell my daughter?
That she's growing up to be lamb for the slaughter
we've got to make a change
Reboot, reformat, rearrange,
and never give in
no matter how much our head may spin
Just keep asking the question
What is this country that I live in?"
Why can't I wear what I want to wear? Why can't I pick my identity? Why can't I be free in the true sense of the word free?" He talks about the 'unsafe, largely unequal world' we live in. Yet, as a father, I can't put my head in the sand because there are certain realities around us. We live in an unsafe, largely unequal world . We have never told you what not to wear or not go out. You can have blue hair if that's what you want. You are growing to be a confident, independent and conscious young woman. You've spoken to me about the movies our industry makes, about how women are sometimes portrayed as 'objects' and I've always tried to answer your questions," reads his letter.
"As a filmmaker, I need to be wary of such visualisation. We can't put a blindfold around our eyes and say, I'm doing this for entertainment, or believe that it has no influence on the audiences. Our fans gather around us in the hundreds, even thousands, and they're there because of our work, because they idolise us, because they're in love with our screen image. That bestows on us a great sense of responsibility. I too, dear daughter, function in a field where, like you, I'm constantly battling for freedom of speech, of expression, of creative expression,".
The letter further reads as, "Rape and sexual harassment have often figured in movies. Earlier, the 'bad guy' was always the villain but think about it, the villain who used to be the stalker in college, for example, has now been replaced by the hero. Step back and see and what you'll realise is that the creep you hated in movies is the one who is 'getting' the girl. Worse, the girl ends up believing that he's stalking her because he loves her and she ends up thinking, 'he must really love me. You and I have always had open conversations. We’ve always understood the importance of communication. I do worry about you when you’re out as any father would do. But like all fathers, I want you to remember that through your journey in life, you have a friend in me. You must always chase your dreams and live your life with freedom. Of course, be safe. You know what safe is. Have your wits about you. Be smart and be in control of yourself."
He ends the letter with verses from his poem:
And as you ask yourself the question, what is this country that I live in, always remember:
I understand you little girl
Your rage, your surprise
Your confusion about the beast in human disguise
I stand with you, little girl, I stand with you