Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and that means many of us pay special attention to our relationships. While it’s nice to have a day where you place special emphasis on your significant other, a good relationship needs work day in and day out. Three of the best ways to do that are by spending time together doing these three things that have been helping couples the world over to find renewed passion and value.
They help you reconnect. With today’s busy schedules, couples are often too busy to spend hours together during the work week. Even weekends can be hectic, with family obligations and social engagement often taking precedence over alone time. A couple’s massage, however, can be just what the relationship doctor ordered. During massages, people tend to let go of the past, forget about the future, and concentrate on the present. Being fully engaged in what’s going on now can help a couple rediscover that special spark. A bit of effort goes a long way, and that mentality can be carried over into daily life.
They stimulate affection and intimacy. A full-body rub stimulates the release of feel-good hormones, several of which promote affection and intimacy. Touch increased the production of oxytocin, which is often called ‘the cuddle chemical’. Serotonin and dopamine, both relaxants, are also produced in greater quantities during a massage. This makes a couple’s massage science’s version of a love potion.
They can strengthen your bond. According to several sources and studies, couples who continually introduce novelty to their relationships tend to have stronger, more rewarding bonds. We hear it from the experts over and over: spice up your relationship. A couple’s massage, especially if neither of you has ever partaken in one before, can prove to be an interesting idea. It offers the potential for a new adventure, which is essentially the first step in a renewed bond.
It changes your perspective. The therapeutic process allows both partners to see their relationship more objectively. The blame game takes a backseat, and you instead focus on what happens to the other person. Having this other perspective gives you context, and it allows you to recognise that aspects of your relationship also occur with their own circumstances and influences.
It addresses dysfunctional behaviour. An effective therapist can help you adjust the way you behave with your partner. As well as improving communication and interaction, couple’s therapy can help you understand that certain actions and words can have physical and psychological harm. It can also address the more serious dysfunctional aspects of a relationship – domestic violence, substance abuse, anger issues, gambling addictions, and many other vices.
It promotes emotional expression. If one partner in a couple doesn’t express his/her personal feelings, the risk of the pair growing more distant increases. An effective therapist can assist you in bringing out the thoughts and feelings you fear expressing, and she can also prevent a dangerous situation from tipping over into a dysfunctional one. It can also help promote independence in overly attached couples, especially in one-sided situations where one partner is considerably more dependent than the other.
Friendly competition can stoke other flames. And we don’t mean that in a bad way. Exercise and relationships share one major similarity, which is that if you let either become monotonous, it’s tough to break out of that rut. Trying to out-do your partner without placing tremendous priority on winning is a great way to motivate each other, and that fire may just carry over into the bedroom.
Motivation is the key. Everyone signs up for gym memberships on January 1, but come February, most fitness clubs are emptier than a bar on a dry day. Having your partner around can help keep motivation levels high. If you feel like skipping a day, she’ll nudge you to join her so she has company. If she wants to give up after the sixth rep, you can push her to finish the whole eight. Like any other aspect of a relationship, it’s give and take.
You cross hurdles together. Everyone knows that survivors tend to form kinship. If you both lost several kilos at the gym together, you’re likely to stick with your new diet and fitness plan for a longer time. And the knowledge of having crossed hurdles with your partner is a fantastic way to foster memories of solidarity that will carry into other aspects of your relationship. ..... Ashwin