There’s no two ways about it – planning a wedding is stressful! But it really shouldn’t be, considering it’s the beginning of a beautiful journey. It’s meant to be the happiest day of one’s life (one of them, anyway), so why should it be filled with stress or any sort of negativity? Your wedding should be peaceful, relaxed, and all things wonderful. It’s understandable that brides and grooms (and their families) might stress a bit about D-day; there’s so much pressure for every little thing to be perfect. Check out these tips to reduce your mental burden.
To be honest, one of the main sources of worry is the people around you. When it comes to weddings, everybody seems to have an opinion. This inevitably ends up causing confusion and chaos. Nip this in the bud. Don’t allow everyone’s opinions to influence you, and don’t let others steamroll you. It is, after all, your wedding. The only opinions that should matter are yours and your significant other’s. Be firm on what you want without offending anyone (that may cause more stress).
The bigger picture
In the midst of the disarray that is wedding planning, it can be easy to forget why you’re doing this. Losing sight of the bigger picture? Every time you feel like control is slipping away, every time you feel stressed, remind yourself of what really matters: the marriage, not the wedding. Remember that as wonderful and important as it is, your wedding day is just one day. Compared to the rest of your life, that’s nothing. Focus on your relationship with your better half.
Work as one
Act as a single entity when making decisions related to the wedding. Independent decisions and refusing to hear each other out will just cause problems, putting one or both partners in a state of worry and anger. The best thing is to make decisions jointly, and to do so, communication is the key. Understand your partner, and agree to all wedding-related details as one. Discuss your fears and worries about the wedding day. This can strengthen your bond, making you feel better about the wedding as well as the marriage.
Take your time
Don’t rush anything; it will just create more worry. Be thorough, do your research and, most importantly, take your time. The planning will seem easier, you will be much happier, and there will be no room for regret. The more you can be calm and collected while planning and making decisions, the better you will feel about each of them and the wedding itself.
What’s better than a little extra care? Nothing fixes stress and strain like pampering does. Or better yet, pamper your partner. Support each other through this trying time; help each other keep cool heads. Make sure your partner feels cared for, and a great way to do this is with a day at the spa to melt away that stress. You’ll both feel rejuvenated and ready for the next challenge.
It’s important to take a few steps back from the stress of planning every now and again, to reassess what you are doing and what you have done. This ensures your certainty on matters related to D-day, and helps you slow down and relax. Make an honest assessment of how everyone involved in the wedding can help; know their strong suits (and weaknesses).
Delegating is not an easy task when it comes to your one and only wedding, but it is imperative that you allow others to help. Once you have assessed what is needed and everyone’s strengths, assign tasks accordingly. This leaves you with less to worry about, making it less likely that any small details will fall through the cracks. All you need to do is focus on the big picture – enjoying the wedding!
Surprise your special someone every now and again, both on the wedding day and before it. This will help keep romance and happiness levels high. Arrange for some small, choice surprises on the wedding day; it’s a nice change of pace and a good way to break the monotony of planned details. This also ensures that you both have a bit of fun on your special day.
Considering that weddings are supposed to be the best days of our lives, the pressure and planning are understandable. A bride may have been planning her wedding and imagining every last detail from a very young age. However, it’s important to be practical and level-headed when it comes to the real thing. The fantasy and romance of a wedding is very important, but not more important than your marriage. Put idealism aside; you don’t have to settle, but don’t look to the stars unless you can afford it, or you’re sure to meet with stress.